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Still no answer from the anti-gays

I've been waiting for a response from ANYone who can tell me what about gay marriage hurts hetro-marriage. I don't want to know that god says it's wrong, I want someone, ANYone to tell me how it hurts cross gender marriage. There are a lot of things that are wrong in the eyes of god that aren't outlawed. (For one, women are allowed to talk in church. People eat shrimp and clams and lobster and pig. Both of which are in the bible as things that are not allowed.)

One of the points people miss about gay marriage is that it isn't just a piece of paper. It is community property, protection in divorce, legal confidence (you can't force a husband/wife to violate marital confidentiality)... it is many things and this day in age where marriage is so quick and easy people forget that. One of the worst is the right to visit/make decisions in the hospital. I have friends who got married just incase one of the them got sick again, because she got sick and being just a "boyfriend" he could make no medical decisions and was limited to visiting hours. The worst case is death... Spouses override families in the case of death, this means that the person closest to you gets to decide where and how you are disposed. This may seem like a trivial point but if you are gay and your family doesn't approve they might not even invite your lover to the disposal. They may not even honor what would obviously be your wishes. (This paragraph is largely a response to a Meta saying she thinks its just a piece of paper... :-) )

Today I came across a response to an editorial against gay marriage using the bible. I'm not a big fan of using the bible because people only use the bible when they want to condemn or explain something. If christians all lived by the bible no one would eat pork or shell fish or cat fish. We would never go to war (love they neighbor/turn the other cheek). It would be OK to have sex with you daughter (see the famed Sodom and Ghamora story). No one would do anything on the Sabbath (the would mean NO one could work, not gas station attendants, not police, not pilots of commercial aircraft, NOONE!). I find it hard to respect an argument based on a document that is only selectively true.

So, once again here is my challenge: Explain in as many words as you need why gay marriage hurts marriage.

Posted by pqbon at February 25, 2004 10:10 PM | TrackBack